Would you undertake a degree in rocket science when in the midst of an emotional crisis?

NO‘ I hear you shout! That would be misuse of valuable time and energy.

There are professionals who can sort out the Aged Care placement process, so why not engage their services?

The answer is probably because most people don’t know that these people exist – like I didn’t when I was trying to get my mother-in-law into care. Where were they hiding?

They were not far away and in fact there are more and more of them springing up globally, but if you’ve never heard of them, then you won’t know who to Google. And if you do Google them, how do you know if they’re good or not and if the fee they charge is reasonable?

The longer I work at Demystifying the Aged Care Puzzle, the more professionals I’m adding to my database, so that when I sit down with a client I can draw on my list of trusted and experienced professionals.

I need to know that the people to whom I refer are going to have the same empathy and care for you as I do, so that anything to do with the ageing process can be covered with ease and if necessary, speed.

When you’ve done some preparation, you can buy time with the hospital, by saying, ‘We have a Placement Consultant working on this with us and will have it sorted in a few days.’

Act now before there’s a crisis.

You’ll be glad you did! I consult with families to create an Action Plan, specific to them, so they can attend to some of the preliminaries whilst their loved one is still in a reasonable condition. We never know what’s around the corner.

To schedule a time to discuss what’s happening, please email me … gail@gailruthmiller.com

We never know what tomorrow will bring

When speaking to audiences, I repeat the same slide three times … and not because I have short-term memory issues.

Act now before there’s a crisis!

Whatever preparation we can do before a crisis occurs with our elderly loved ones, will save drama, heart-ache and distress later. A crisis is generally a broken bone, stroke or heart issue and they literally happen in a blink!

When people have their decluttering and legals in order, they can cross two of the biggies off the To Do List.

For several years I’ve been sprouting second hand stories of people being placed by a hospital, once they’re out of crisis, in Residential Aged Care homes hundreds of miles from their home and families.

The hospital discharge staff aren’t trying to be unkind, but are simply freeing up the bed for a younger patient who can be treated and made well again, rather than keeping an elderly, declining patient, who is now stable and not likely to improve.

Last week, one of the audience at my Demystifying the Aged Care Puzzle talk told of her Mum being sent to a home 150 kms (2 hours) from her home and family. They were devastated and I personally find this heartbreaking!

She didn’t have to stay there, but her family now had to find an Aged Care Home closer and unfortunately they didn’t see her as urgent, because she already had a placement!

And with the extra travel to visit Mum, no one had the time or energy to attend to learning the process of finding that elusive bed, so this is what happened …

How much energy is left to provide emotional support?

Because the family didn’t know any better, they started trying to navigate the Aged Care process … Alone!

Tune in to Part 7 to find out what they could have done …

When you arrive and your father-in-law is waving a Final Notice from his electricity provider in your face, demanding that you tell him why they sent it, should that ring an alarm bell? Is it that he’s no longer able to manage his affairs? And if that’s the case, does he have dementia setting in?

An ever increasing issue of the elderly is Social Isolation.

Social Isolation can disguise itself as the early stages of dementia ….

For many who are living in their own home Social Isolation is an issue of epidemic proportions around the globe.

It’s a tricky one, because it may seem that Mum or Dad are ok in their home because they’re able to manage their personal care needs, their shopping, their cooking and they are still mobile.

But you notice when you visit that they always seem sad and are becoming increasingly negative, bordering on depressed and for no apparent reason.

They may also be avoiding social contact with others due to this decline on the happiness scale.

A lady I met kept describing her home as a concrete jungle. She’d chosen to buy the home 6 years prior, but she was becoming increasingly distressed by living there. It seemed to her family that she had early signs of dementia.

It may not be dementia

               It may not be dementia

Within six weeks of moving into permanent Residential Aged Care, this same lady was as happy as a  pig in mud!

With people wandering about all  the time, she felt like she had company all the time, even when staff were attending to another resident.

And, miraculously all the signs of dementia had vanished. Sometimes the remedy for such a malady is moving into care, even if the elderly person is initially resistant.

It’s worth considering …