Now more than ever, the entire world has been flipped on its head, is still airborne and a long way from touchdown. Multitudes are experiencing grief and the list of reasons is endless.
Once-upon-a-time the general public associated grief only with death, so people would avoid the topic like the plague. Those times need to be a thing of the past. It’s time for talking about how we feel and for us to take our turn at listening too.
It’s my guess that very few on the planet remain untouched by the pandemic. Families have lost loved ones, people have lost their jobs or had their hours reduced, isolation due to lockdowns has taken its toll, some businesses have closed whilst others are limping along ponder their future, trips have been cancelled, the elderly have been missing their families and so the list goes …
Huggers are suffering severe withdrawal symptoms, yet at the same time the non-huggers are enjoying the respite from physical contact.
So for every Downside, there can be an Upside, if we choose to see it. The Japanese have a word – Kikai – for the concept that Disaster and Opportunity are the same thing. It’s a concept worth considering.
Thinking again of grief relating to things other than death … Mum lost her leg in a car accident aged 42, learned to walk with an artificial limb, and never complained. We had no idea what type or depth of grief she may have experienced, because she never spoke of it and certainly never grumbled about her loss. To the contrary, she always celebrated what she could still do!
Mum exercised her Choice about how to respond to what life presented her. Decades later she had her entire aorta replaced with stents and ended up paralysed (the known risk). Still she Chose to accept what happened and went on to spend her remaining six years in an Aged Care Home, living life to the full.
If Mum were still here I can’t help but wonder what she would make of some of the glass half empty attitudes to the current global crisis. I suspect that she’d still be sitting in her wheelchair, happily knitting, listening to the radio and watching the growth of the camellia trees outside her room whilst the Home was in lockdown. She’d have been chatting to us on the phone and making the most of each day.
Her example taught me that we always have a Choice about how we react to our challenges in life.
Now we all have a chance to exercise our Choice in how to respond to the changes in our life and to decide how we want to shape our life from here …
I’d encourage you to include a listening ear and a dose of empathy for all. Couple that with a smile that can be delivered free of charge, whilst maintaining the required social distancing.
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